Thursday, December 9, 2010
Friday, November 5, 2010
I’ve been busy the last few weeks—school hw, papers, and projects!! One of my school projects was to choose a media leader to analyze. I immediately chose Phil Cooke, and he was kind enough to answer some questions about his leadership style. But first, here’s some of the reasons I chose Cooke to write about in the first place.
Phil Cooke, consultant, strategist, and media activist, is leading a movement to revolutionize the way the church engages the culture and creates media. Through his company, Cooke Pictures, his books, Branding Faith and The Last TV Evangelist, and his popular blog, philcooke.com, Phil is changing the way Christian communicators and religious organizations engage the culture.
- How would you describe your leadership style?
I'm driven by two things - creativity and teams. I love looking at challenges in unconventional ways and I like working with other creative people. That's not a style for the insecure or faint of heart, because you really have to deliver, and you can't be intimidated by others on the team. But I've discovered that you can find remarkable results when you surround yourself with people smarter than you are.
2. What have you found is the best way to inspire your employees?
Inspiration isn't about money, it's about meaning. Employees deserve to be paid well - especially when they bring a lot of expertise to the table. However, everyone knows well paid people who are miserable at their job. When a person finds his or her job meaningful, they'll navigate a lot of obstacles to get the job done well.
3. Many people follow your books and blog for ideas and inspiration. Whose books and blogs do you follow and why?
I'm a big fan of cross-pollination, so I get ideas and inspiration from a lot of different sources. In my new book that comes out in April called "Jolt!" I write about this very thing. The reason gardens are so beautiful is that bees scatter the pollen from plant to plant. In the same way, I read business books, attend the opera, study the lives of military generals, watch movies, and much more. I want to bring many different perspectives to the table when I'm solving problems.
4. What are some mistakes you’ve made as a leader and what lessons did you learn from them?
I remember not taking a financial risk to keep a great employee. I once had a brilliant producer who deserved more money. But because I was nervous about our small company's income, I let him go to another company. I've always regretted that I didn't believe enough in our future to step out and take that risk. Great people are tough to find.
Thanks for helping me with my school project Phil!
Thursday, October 21, 2010
In my blog description I mention that I will reveal some of the “ugly” stuff I’m going through in this season of my life. A few Sundays ago, I reluctantly shared this with my congregation. Here’s the big news: I’m battling anxiety and it sucks.
Friday, October 8, 2010
In my own little world it hardly ever rains
I’ve never gone hungry, always felt safe
I got some money in my pocket shoes on my feet
In my own little world--Population me
As a pastor’s wife, I am blessed to know many people and to be part of their life’s journey--the ups, downs, victories, and challenges. To me, serving and encouraging the body of Christ is both a privilege and a reward. But lately I’ve been so consumed with “my own little world” that my purpose is getting lost in the realities of life.
Am I working hard, brick by brick, stone by stone, building an altar to myself? Am I building a kingdom w/ a population of one—ME?
When I think about how much time I spend thinking about myself, guarding what’s mine, adding to what’s mine, adding to my resume, adding to my life experiences, setting higher goals, dreaming new dreams . . . I stop and ask myself, “How much of this is God-directed and how much of this is leaving a Lori legacy?”
Is there no end to distractions that compel me to keep my mind on myself and not others? Case in point#1- Torn ligament in my right arm—RESULT—I constantly think about MY pain. #2 Lots of things breaking down around the house lately—RESULT—I think about MY money and how I need more. #3 Anxiety from work and school building up—RESULT—I think about how I can guard my ME time.
So sick of ME!
The Lord stepped in last night and gently reminded me through Paul’s words that I need to stop focusing on my problems and start focusing on Him.
“May you be filled with joy, ALWAYS thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to His people.” Colossians 1:11, 12
It’s so simple and I’ve learned it a hundred times. Immediately I began to praise Him for who He is and thank Him for what He has enabled me to do. Tears came as I began to write in my journal:
“He has enabled me to—think, reason, go to school, enjoy my kids, feed and clothe them, share my life with my husband, get out of bed, breathe, rest, sleep, see, feel, hear, . . . !!”
I must quit focusing on my lack, my need, my pain, my circumstances, my plans, etc. and get my mind on HIM! His promises, His protection, His provision, and His very person—I must praise Him. As I do, Jesus empowers me with strength to serve and fills me with compassion to love others.
The last words of the song sum it up:
Start breaking my heart for what breaks Yours
Give me open hands and open doors
Put Your light in my eyes and let me see
That my own little world is not about me
Friday, October 1, 2010
However, I was against the idea from day one. I won’t go into all the reasons why I thought this was a bad idea, but the list was long! Nevertheless, I played the part of the submissive wife and pretended to care about the youth in the church.
About 6 months into our youth ministry there, I was sitting in the back of the room during a Wednesday night youth service. Matt was preaching while I was telling God, in my mind, all the reasons why we should not be working there. I began to tell him all the problems with the youth group and why we were the wrong people to lead this group of students. I counted around 25 youth there that night and that depressed me too. I missed the large youth group we pastored when we lived in San Diego. “Why are we so small, Lord?” He was listening.
Right at that moment the Lord spoke to me and said, “This youth group is small because of YOU.” Immediately I knew what he meant—my lack of faith, my negativity, my complaining spirit—I was the problem!!
That night I repented and asked the Lord to give me a heart for these students. Soon after that, we took almost 40 young people to Magic Mountain, an amusement park in Southern California. One night in the hotel conference room, we experienced an unexpected, supernatural move of God. Students began to weep, confess sins, prophecy—that night would launch a consistent move of God. Our youth group began to grow and grow. Many of those young people are in full time ministry today.
Is your lack of vision harming your ministry? Is your negativity and complaining spirit putting a wet blanket on the Holy Spirit’s plans for your church? Repent and allow the Lord to fill you with a supernatural love for the people the Lord has assigned you to serve. He can do it!
Monday, September 20, 2010
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
My first post on my new blog . . . this is a big deal. I’m feeling the pressure to say something really deep, or incredibly funny, or maybe I’d even settle for “not bad.”
But before I can “WOW” you with my waxing-eloquent-writing-ability (or lack of!), you are probably saying, “Who are you?” So maybe I should just introduce myself.
I’m a struggling pastor’s wife and a busy working mom. I don’t have all the answers and I’ve only been a lead pastor’s wife for one year.
How would I define my 1st year as a church planter? I will answer using “ing” words:
· Making mistakes
· Doing things WAY out of my comfort zone
· Over-scheduling my calendar
· Learning God’s miraculous grace firsthand
· Finding that people can be the greatest reward and the greatest challenge in ministry
· Learning that unity is absolutely vital and the one thing you fight for every single day as a church leader
· Protecting and nurturing my marriage and family
· Trying to find humor in things you initially want to cry about
· Marveling at the faithfulness of God
· The list goes on and on. . .
What qualifies me to tell other pastor’s wives how to survive? First, let me say how unqualified I feel most of the time! On the flip side, I know that God has been preparing me my whole life to do what I am doing right now.
You see, I was the daughter of a pastor and both of my grandfathers were preachers. I always felt called to full-time ministry, but in my mind I thought I would end up on the mission field. I married my sweetheart immediately after he graduated from Bible college. My husband and I youth pastored 11 years in Southern and Northern California, and we spent the last 10 years as associate pastors in San Leandro, Ca. and Chesapeake, Va. For the past year, we have been lead pastors in a church plant in Suffolk, Va.
So that’s who I am in 300+ words. In this blog, I hope to share things with you that God has and is teaching me as a pastor’s wife.